A Trying Day

Posted in Inner Peace on September 29th 2011
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I had a very trying day yesterday. As I am sitting here reflecting on it, I am just realizing that it was the last day of the Jewish year, and it was trying right up until just around sunset. With sunset came the New Year.

I am sitting here in front of my window with the sun by my side letting this sink in.

My precious dog got out of the yard and was lost. She is the only girl in my immediate family.  I missed her.

My father needed some immediate attention for a situation that could be resolved but just needed a little time and action.

I was very busy with work, and had to find some time and action.

My patients were appreciating the care I give them, and it was a busy day.

My stepson called and needed some emotional assistance. He never calls and asks for that, so I felt I had to find the time.

Patients were calling for appointments.

One of my helpers seemed to have lost some records; although after a phone call they were found.

I had to breathe and take care of myself.

I had to breathe and care for myself.

That is what sticks out to me after a day like yesterday.

I just took some time whenever I could to breathe and take care of myself.

I even asked myself questions like, how can I do this better? What can I leave out?

And I did breathe.

My New Year is bringing me a year where I not only further learn to take care of myself better, but I DO, and I BREATHE,  and I do much more than survive, I LIVE, LOVE, AND FEEL GRATEFUL!

Here is to a great new year for all of you. Please breathe, just breathe!

With your breath is your life.

What Rising Anger and Fear and Loss Can Do To Us

Posted in Family Mapping, Healing Work, Inner Peace on September 15th 2011
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I saw a client the other day who suffered a stroke a couple of years ago. She is a young woman, and is doing well in many ways. Yet, this summer she began to feel anxiety, anger, depression and fatigue building inside of her and it scared her.

You see, a few years ago her mother died suddenly from a physician and hospital error. Her mother also died at the same age as her mother before her, and from a collapse of the heart.

My client loved her mother, and her mother loved her mother. She couldn’t look at the hospital and the doctor, and neither could her father and her brothers. In her family, no one would look. So where could the anger go? And aside from that, the anger at the medical field kept her from really being able to grieve her mom’s death and move forward. She grieved and grieved and grieved, and even told me that she has been fighting with her mother in her dreams. Her mother, I believe, wants her to move on and be happy and do well. She hasn’t been able to.

So guess where I had her look? Yes, back at the doctor responsible, and the hospital that covered up the error through legal maneuvering. I even have given her homework, which is to write a letter to the doctor, whether she sends it to him or not, and to look and finally say what is her truth and in her heart to say to him.

I suggest that you try saying to the people in your own life what is true and in your heart, no matter how scary that might be for you, and see what happens. Write it down if that is best for you, but find a way to say your truth to those you haven’t, and haven’t had the opportunity to do so.

And, if you feel so moved, share a comment or send me a note as to how that was for you.

Gail

Know Your Body, Know Yourself

Posted in Body Constellations, Family Constellations, Inner Peace on September 7th 2011
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Know your body, know yourself. I love saying those words, but what do they really mean?

I had a client the other day who really knows what they mean. She had recently been diagnosed with a very slow-growing cancer in her breast. In fact, the doctors told her that she wouldn’t even die of the cancer; that something else in old age would occur first.

Even so, she decided that she would like to have the tumor removed.

She then proceeded to tell me that it has given her an opportunity to learn more about herself, in terms of issues that she was being complacent about. I asked her what she was referring to and she said many things. Basically, to paraphrase, she said that she knew that she had spent many years denying what she did take. She also felt and knew that this tumor was a concrete expression of an anger and rejection that she had turned onto herself. In other words, she had taken her rejection of her mom onto/into herself. That she had rejected her mother’s milk, and yet also had to take some of the milk in for her to survive. Even though she has resolved her feelings for her mother, and is now in a place where she sees her mother clearly and feels great compassion for her, as well as compassion for herself, the anger and rejection had already solidified inside of her. She also realized that she looks for comfort and nourishment outside of herself and now knows it needs to come from inside.

I listened to her speak, and thought how beautiful her thought processes are. She actually took the time to listen to her body and found many things out about herself.

We all have that capacity. We just need to learn how to listen. And we need the courage to listen.

Know your body, know yourself.

A Good Night’s Sleep

Posted in Body Constellations, Family Constellations on August 22nd 2011
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If you have ever experienced difficulty getting a good night’s sleep, click the play button below for suggestions on how to achieve a night of not just good, but safe, secure and nurturing sleep.

The Know Factor: Escaping from Overwhelm

Posted in Body Constellations, Family Constellations, Inner Peace, Know Your Body...Know Your Mind on August 16th 2011
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I had a client the other day who was feeling overwhelmed…not good enough. She experienced a need to have all details taken care of and to have everything in its place.

That worked for her when she didn’t have any children and when she was just taking care of her husband, her home and worked full time. She was mostly able to keep up most of the time.

Now she has two young children with the husband, home and property, and she works full time. She had decided to build an above-ground pool and finish her basement in this past year and now was feeling overwhelmed. She doesn’t like to owe money, and doesn’t like to lose control.

Now, we all know that it is hard to work full time and keep up a home. We know it is hard to maintain a good marriage and keep a home and work full time. Now, add two young children to the mix, along with the need to have everything under control.

Yes, this client is anxious. So, where does this overwhelm and need come from?

Whose feelings is she carrying? Whose life fell apart when she was young?

When she was very young, her mother and father broke up, and her father left the family for another woman. Her mother was devastated and didn’t feel good enough. Her mother felt she couldn’t control things and was overwhelmed with two small children.

This young woman, then a little girl, stepped in to help her mother. With her stepping in, she also felt her mother’s feelings. The two married inside of her.

Now she has two small children, and her oldest is the age she was when her father left the family. Her old trauma came back to her, but without words because she didn’t have the language at the time when she was so young. So she needs to control, and feels overwhelmed; just like her mother did.

These types of things happen to all of us. Trauma, unresolved, lives inside of us in some way until something happens to trigger it.

What I do in this family systems work is to help you to see where it comes from, to help you see the old picture in a new way, and bring back in the missing person; here the father, and to bring words to you where you didn’t have any previously.

How powerful is that?

Somewhere inside of you, your body knows what happened; know your body, know yourself!

Fear and Gratitude

Posted in Healing Work, Inner Peace, Pain on August 3rd 2011
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There are so many concerning issues in the world today that you might be fighting the urge to operate from a place of fear. Here is some good advice on how to quell your fear and anxiety by tapping into the gratitude within.

How Do You Know?

Posted in Family Constellations, Family Mapping, Healing Work, Inner Peace on July 26th 2011
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How do you know what you’re really feeling or experiencing?

Take a Moment to Explore What Makes You Feel Good

Posted in Inner Peace on July 19th 2011
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Take the time to figure out what makes you feel good, so that you can tap into those feelings when you need them later.



Thank You, Sun!

Posted in Inner Peace, Nature on July 6th 2011
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Hey, Sun, hiding in the trees.

Please come forward and look at me.

I wait by your side as you inspire me.

You have been hidden of late; behind layers of clouds and rain.

Come out and play with me today.

Even as your heat permeates my being, I take you in and feel your wisdom.

Side by side I walk with you today.

I feel your warmth and abundance.

Instead of fleeing from your intensity, I welcome it and take it in.

I run no more.

Thank you.

The Anxiety of Waiting

Posted in Healing Work, Inner Peace on July 5th 2011
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Where inside of yourself do you feel the nervousness and anxiety of waiting?  And how do you deal with it?

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